May 28, 2023
Do you pay attention to everything your mind tells you? Our minds can take us on a wild goose ride with all the "What ifs" and "I should haves." The mind is the main cause of the "Worrier" in us and is the culprit for our automatic tendency to "beat ourselves up" at the first sign of problems.

According to psychologists, we have between 60,000 and 70,000 ideas every day, and about 80% of them are unfavorable or self-destructive. For years, negative beliefs have been growing in our subconscious, frequently as a result of instances in which we were “put down” or chastised.

In fact, you might not even be aware that these negative ideas are present unless you deliberately seek to recognize them. Negative thinking begins in early life. It’s difficult to comprehend how damaging negative self-talk can be when it’s so ingrained in your daily life.

For instance, the habitual negative thoughts that arise when things doesn’t go as planned can be, “I’m such a moron. I ought to have been wiser.”

Beating yourself up or thinking negatively on a regular basis leads to the false assumption that you’re “not smart enough,” “not good enough,” or incapable of performing any task correctly. With negative thinking, you’ve undoubtedly compromised your integrity and settled for less than you’d want to admit. Unfortunately, consistently “beating oneself down” makes it hard to feel accomplished and secure.

You may deliberately replace negative ideas with realistic ones or self-soothing ones by telling yourself things like “Everything’s going to be ok- I can do this” or “I can get through this.” This is a fantastic technique to stop thinking negatively. Try to recall instances in the past when, despite believing it was impossible at the time, you overcame challenging moments. Building your self-esteem and confidence by doing this is a powerful way to combat negative thoughts.

Write down your negative ideas when you’ve discovered them. It may actually be “an eye opener” to see things in black and white since it increases awareness of how harmful negative thinking is.

Eliminate the bad. Use a black marker to draw a thick line over all the critical thoughts you’ve recorded about yourself.

Change your negative self-talk to a more optimistic one. Write the exact opposite of your negative thinking, for instance, “I’m incredibly good at managing my workers,” if your negative thought was “I’m useless at managing my employees.”

Remember that your negative self-talk was likely untrue as well if you feel that your positive self-talk simply isn’t true. Because you unconsciously or deliberately thought badly so frequently throughout your life, you began to believe the negativity a little more each day, which is how negative self-talk got so strong.

Your new positive self-talk is based on the same idea. Affirmations of improvement, such as “Everyday, I’m becoming a better person in every way,” can significantly boost your self-esteem.

Every day, tell yourself nice things. Affirmations should be written on index cards or post-it notes and adhered to as many surfaces as you can, including your keyboard, computer monitor, refrigerator, mirrors, and bedside table. You’ll repeat them to yourself and see them more often, which will help them stick in your head. Once you truly feel confident in who you are, the negativity and propensity to “beat yourself up” will become less and less frequent.